What to Do If You Feel the Love is Still There

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What to do if you feel the love is still there? You're not ready to give up on your love, you feel it in your gut.

Do you want to win ex back? You've put alot of time and emotional investment into the relationship and you're not ready to throw it away without a fight.

Here’s how to win your ex back.

First of all, you need to analyze your feelings. Do you still care deeply about your ex? Sometimes a great passion burns into being merely comfortable. You don’t want to lose your ex because he or she is like an old slipper. But comfort doesn’t make a great relationship. There has to be a great love. If you still have passionate feelings for your ex-love, you can move onto the next step making up with your ex.

And the next step is examining how they feel about you. Does he or she still have the same kind of grand love? If the problems in the relationship were things you can work on – communication, time management, goal awareness – then you can win your ex back. But, if the problem was deeper – they no longer feel that grand love for you – you should accept it and move on now.

When you have determined that this was a grand love, a love worth saving, you can start to work on the things that can bring you back together. For instance, think back to who you were when they fell for you. Perhaps you weighed 10 pounds less, had a more optimistic outlook on life, were close to your friends, more outgoing, or  involved in a variety of activities.

After you spend time with someone, you do begin to change. You spend less time with friends or on your own activities as he or she begins to demand more of your presence. You may have let yourself go because you feel secure in their affection.
If you want to know how to get your ex back, you need to go back to being the person they fell in love with.
Another tip on making up with your ex back is to practice detachment. Don’t call them, no texting, and definitely do not stalk. You don’t want to appear desperate. By seeming to accept the situation, you actually become more desirable to them, more mature.

In practicing detachment, you also begin to focus on what makes you happy. You get reconnected to friends and family. You go back to hobbies and other things which interested you or find new ones you've always wanted to try. You become a more positive person in general. This all helps to win your ex back.

When you do get together with your ex from time to time, use the past to your advantage. For instance, if there was an outfit they really liked to see you in, wear it. If you eat at a restaurant where you had a good time with him or her, mention that you were there again. Because you have many positive experiences with this person, you can use your common history to win your ex back.

From time to time, invite your ex to non-committal type events. Ask him or her to join a group of your friends at a bar or invite them to a party. Let him or her know they are free to bring a date.

Finally, if you want to win ex back, just be yourself. Either they are in love with you or they are not. You can’t change who you are to win ex back. You can only be yourself.

For more information on how to move from the detached stage to making him or her see the desirable person they fell in love with, visit Magic of Making Up.